You Were Taught to Put Yourself Last. Here's Where That Started

Discover why putting others first can actually hurt your connections and lead to chronic resentment. This video offers crucial relationship advice, emphasizing that prioritizing yourself is key for personal growth and overall emotional health. Learn practical self-care tips to avoid feeling drained and build stronger, healthier bonds by setting boundaries. We often think that putting others first is the "kind" or "selfless" thing to do, but what if it comes with a cost to our own mental health? Let's talk about the reality of people-pleasing and self-abandonment. Have you ever felt like you are lighting yourself on fire just to keep everyone else warm? When we prioritize everyone else's needs, wants, and comfort over our own, we aren't just being nice -- we're teaching ourselves that we don't matter. Over time, this leads to resenting yourself, burnout, and a loss of identity. This video is part 3 of the Self-Abandonment: Stop People Pleasing & Reclaim Yourself playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqyygol4OBT3UVI3Vn2xfP9v 0:00 Intro: Lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm 0:24 Why self-abandonment starts & its personal toll 1:40 Loss of identity – forgetting who you are 3:37 Building resentment from unspoken "no"s 4:57 Anxiety & hypervigilance in people-pleasing 7:03 Emotional numbness leading to burnout 8:33 How it hurts your relationships 10:26 Inauthentic bonds: The "ghost" version of you 12:13 Why attraction & spark disappear over time 14:30 The backfire: Pleasing creates less safety 16:07 Reframing grief – it's never too late to start 17:41 Practical first step: Solo date to reconnect 19:00 Takeaways & your next move My books: Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY Therapy: While I don't offer online therapy, get connected with a licensed therapist through my sponsor BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/kati (Get 10% OFF your first month) Part