The Life-Changing Power of Making Repairs w/ Dr. Sarah Michaud

Making amends, making repairs is even more powerful than self forgiveness or self-compassion. When you learn to fix the harms you've caused you can truly find emotional freedom. Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Where to find Dr. Sarah Michaud https://www.youtube.com/@leavingcrazytown https://drsarahmichaud.com/ Ted Talk: Our story of rape and reconciliation - Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9w In this conversation, Dr. Sarah Michaud and I explore the profound themes of self-compassion, forgiveness, and the importance of making amends. We discuss how guilt and shame can manifest in our lives and the courage required to face our mistakes. Practical steps for making amends are outlined, emphasizing the concept of 'living amends' as a transformative practice. Our discussion also highlights the significance of perspective in understanding others' experiences and the role of communication in healing relationships. Ultimately, the conversation underscores that healing is a continuous journey that necessitates accountability and personal growth. 00:00 The Importance of Making Amends 01:03 Self-Forgiveness vs. Making Repairs 04:37 Making Repairs Instead of Rationalizing Harm 9:12 Why Victimhood and Self-Blame Prevent Relationship Repair 13:28 The Path to Liberation Through Accountability 16:11 The Power of Honesty and Vulnerability 17:09 Practical Steps to Making Amends 22:12 Understanding the 12 Steps of Recovery to Repair Relationships 24:10 Why Making Amends Lightens the Emotional Load 25:36 How Anger Can Block Repairing Relationships 26:06 How Secrets and Unrepaired Harm Affect Mental Health 27:28 How Repairing Relationships Creates Freedom for Both Sides 28:50 Making Amends Is a Human Skill, Not a Failure 33:39 Making Repairs: Practical Considerations 37:20 Living Amends: Making Repairs When You Cannot Fix the Past 45:47 Avoid "Rogue Amends": The